When Lightening Strikes

I love to curl up with my wife and watch a lightening storm role in. The thunder rumbles and shakes the walls and the sky lights up. It is amazing the lightening as it flashes from the sky striking the ground. It transmits energy into the air. The electricity causes the hair to stand up all over my body. My mind draws to the thrill of the storm. I feel exhilarated by the excitement.

Colossians 1:17 “And he is before all things, and in him all things hold together”.

What is it about the newlywed stage of a relationship that catches us all? The newlywed offers unique attributes that are easily observed by everyone around. It is a time of energy, touch, and connection far different than any other stage in life. It is about being together before the dynamics of career and kids shift our priorities.

The greatest observable energy between two people is during the newlywed phase. There is electricity that bonds two people no matter where they are in a room. Even though they are separated by distance they will connect in some way to each other. Their time apart is usually limited. They have an understanding of each other when in a group that they naturally care for each other’s needs. Those around them feel that energy and avoid disrupting that connection.

Contact is very important to a newlywed couple. A newlywed couple will touch each other with small gentle brushes or reaches of security. They embrace each other in a way that does not let others invade their moment. A hair drops in the way of her face and the husband may gently brush it aside. They hold hands as they move through a room. As if glued together they stand hip to hip shoulder to shoulder a bound not easily divided. When in public they can be seen kissing, hugging and touching. They are physically engaged with each other.

The other attribute is the glow that radiates from them. Even tired there is a smile that shows on their whole face. As you watch you may catch a glimpse of the twinkle in their eye or a flush of innocent embarrassment when they realize they are being watched. Happiness is the one emotion that consumes them. Some may even comment on how they glow. Different than at the wedding, but still a shine that depicts the emotions they have inside.

So with all the outward expression for everyone to see, what is going on inside? Just as the eyes are a window to the heart their joy is bubbling. There are moments where they have to work through changes, but exhilaration helps to overcome initial difficulties. Newlywed couples are accommodating to each other, passionate and emotional, engaging and consumed about each other’s convictions, willing to compromise, desiring to please.

Being a newlywed is a special time of marriage. The interaction between two people in love does not need to end because everyone says it is time. Being a newlywed is a unique time. Treasure it! Remember, just because you are married for two, five, seven or even thirty years does not mean certain attributes of being newlyweds has to be lost. Connection and commitment to each other as a newlywed can continue through your entire marriage with communication and adoration for each other. Maturity will change reactions and order of importance, but it does not mean the dreamy euphoria of being a newlywed needs to be lost. The magnetic connection that keeps you linked even when you are apart. Protect your relationship with each other. If you have not been feeling that special something in your relationship for some time, maybe it’s time you let lightening strike again in your life.

It’s a Newlywed Thing

It is funny how people make assumptions before they know the facts. We have been invited to be part of different married groups. The groups start out with introductions. Usually, someone from the group will thank us for being there and make some comment about how nice it is to have a newlywed couple join them. It always gives us a great chuckle when we see their face after we tell them we have been married 20 plus years. What is it that makes people think we are newlyweds?

Ezekiel 16:13 “Thus you were adorned with gold and silver, and your clothing was of fine linen and silk and embroidered cloth. You ate fine flour and honey and oil. You grew exceedingly beautiful and advanced to royalty…for it was perfect through the splendor that I had bestowed on you, declares the Lord God”.

It is your wedding day and you are king and queen for a moment. Standing in front of friends and family you share your vows. More importantly, you shine standing in front. Not because of bright lights or special effects, but with the love that you have for each other. When I think about what a newly married couple is, I think about the glow that they share. Perfect love. Maybe even a glimpse at what God has for us all. Because God is love. I have this picture of the wedding, where the couple is united with a glowing ring around them as God gives His Blessing. It is that moment when everyone can see a glimpse of God.

Whether you are newly married or married for years, that love can always shine through. So what is a newlywed? A couple that has dedicated their life to one another. Young love? A new union where they are now finding their way together? A team with fresh players?

Newlywed is a stage of joy and happiness that is obvious to those around. From the wedding to the honeymoon everyone sees the smiles, hears the laughter, and admires the joy a new couple offers. Newly married couples tend to touch and look at each other a lot also. They exhibit emotion, motion, and words. There is something about being around a new couple that is almost contagious. We all like to be around happy people. New couples are the happiest people to be around.

Being newly married is a time of new fresh beginnings. What were two separate individuals are now a couple. This is the first time you have to work together. Sorting out plans for chores, sharing spaces, learning to live and work together. Change is sometimes tough, but during this time there are hormones to help you. You overlook some little details and are tolerant of each other. This is the time you may forget to talk about things. The skills to communicate are not developed yet, so they choose to ignore some things.

Being a newlywed is a time of happiness, freshness, Joy and love. Just because you have been married for years does not mean you can’t have attributes of a newlywed. Let your love for one another shine through. Keeping your marriage fresh and your commitment strong will give others the impression that you are a newlywed couple also.