It’s a Newlywed Thing

It is funny how people make assumptions before they know the facts. We have been invited to be part of different married groups. The groups start out with introductions. Usually, someone from the group will thank us for being there and make some comment about how nice it is to have a newlywed couple join them. It always gives us a great chuckle when we see their face after we tell them we have been married 20 plus years. What is it that makes people think we are newlyweds?

Ezekiel 16:13 “Thus you were adorned with gold and silver, and your clothing was of fine linen and silk and embroidered cloth. You ate fine flour and honey and oil. You grew exceedingly beautiful and advanced to royalty…for it was perfect through the splendor that I had bestowed on you, declares the Lord God”.

It is your wedding day and you are king and queen for a moment. Standing in front of friends and family you share your vows. More importantly, you shine standing in front. Not because of bright lights or special effects, but with the love that you have for each other. When I think about what a newly married couple is, I think about the glow that they share. Perfect love. Maybe even a glimpse at what God has for us all. Because God is love. I have this picture of the wedding, where the couple is united with a glowing ring around them as God gives His Blessing. It is that moment when everyone can see a glimpse of God.

Whether you are newly married or married for years, that love can always shine through. So what is a newlywed? A couple that has dedicated their life to one another. Young love? A new union where they are now finding their way together? A team with fresh players?

Newlywed is a stage of joy and happiness that is obvious to those around. From the wedding to the honeymoon everyone sees the smiles, hears the laughter, and admires the joy a new couple offers. Newly married couples tend to touch and look at each other a lot also. They exhibit emotion, motion, and words. There is something about being around a new couple that is almost contagious. We all like to be around happy people. New couples are the happiest people to be around.

Being newly married is a time of new fresh beginnings. What were two separate individuals are now a couple. This is the first time you have to work together. Sorting out plans for chores, sharing spaces, learning to live and work together. Change is sometimes tough, but during this time there are hormones to help you. You overlook some little details and are tolerant of each other. This is the time you may forget to talk about things. The skills to communicate are not developed yet, so they choose to ignore some things.

Being a newlywed is a time of happiness, freshness, Joy and love. Just because you have been married for years does not mean you can’t have attributes of a newlywed. Let your love for one another shine through. Keeping your marriage fresh and your commitment strong will give others the impression that you are a newlywed couple also.