I love to curl up with my wife and watch a lightening storm role in. The thunder rumbles and shakes the walls and the sky lights up. It is amazing the lightening as it flashes from the sky striking the ground. It transmits energy into the air. The electricity causes the hair to stand up all over my body. My mind draws to the thrill of the storm. I feel exhilarated by the excitement.
Colossians 1:17 “And he is before all things, and in him all things hold together”.
What is it about the newlywed stage of a relationship that catches us all? The newlywed offers unique attributes that are easily observed by everyone around. It is a time of energy, touch, and connection far different than any other stage in life. It is about being together before the dynamics of career and kids shift our priorities.
The greatest observable energy between two people is during the newlywed phase. There is electricity that bonds two people no matter where they are in a room. Even though they are separated by distance they will connect in some way to each other. Their time apart is usually limited. They have an understanding of each other when in a group that they naturally care for each other’s needs. Those around them feel that energy and avoid disrupting that connection.
Contact is very important to a newlywed couple. A newlywed couple will touch each other with small gentle brushes or reaches of security. They embrace each other in a way that does not let others invade their moment. A hair drops in the way of her face and the husband may gently brush it aside. They hold hands as they move through a room. As if glued together they stand hip to hip shoulder to shoulder a bound not easily divided. When in public they can be seen kissing, hugging and touching. They are physically engaged with each other.
The other attribute is the glow that radiates from them. Even tired there is a smile that shows on their whole face. As you watch you may catch a glimpse of the twinkle in their eye or a flush of innocent embarrassment when they realize they are being watched. Happiness is the one emotion that consumes them. Some may even comment on how they glow. Different than at the wedding, but still a shine that depicts the emotions they have inside.
So with all the outward expression for everyone to see, what is going on inside? Just as the eyes are a window to the heart their joy is bubbling. There are moments where they have to work through changes, but exhilaration helps to overcome initial difficulties. Newlywed couples are accommodating to each other, passionate and emotional, engaging and consumed about each other’s convictions, willing to compromise, desiring to please.
Being a newlywed is a special time of marriage. The interaction between two people in love does not need to end because everyone says it is time. Being a newlywed is a unique time. Treasure it! Remember, just because you are married for two, five, seven or even thirty years does not mean certain attributes of being newlyweds has to be lost. Connection and commitment to each other as a newlywed can continue through your entire marriage with communication and adoration for each other. Maturity will change reactions and order of importance, but it does not mean the dreamy euphoria of being a newlywed needs to be lost. The magnetic connection that keeps you linked even when you are apart. Protect your relationship with each other. If you have not been feeling that special something in your relationship for some time, maybe it’s time you let lightening strike again in your life.
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