Look around, envy seems to be the American way. We look around and want all the things others have. We’re always looking for the next fad item, cool electronics, exciting house, or just trying to outdo our neighbors. How many times have you stepped back and gone, “he is so lucky, I wish…?
Proverbs 14:30 “A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.”
We are all so blessed with the things we have. I have heard so many couples that are having problems simply because of being reactionary and throwing out a comparison. Have you ever made the statement “I wish you were more like…? By desiring the attributes of another person’s wife, an imaginary character from the movies or physical characteristics of someone you’ve seen you give opportunity for hurt in your relationship. Don’t let jealousy and hurt divide your relationship. Focus and care for the blessings you have. Not that desiring to achieve more is wrong, but strive for things for yourself, not because someone else has it.
My wife calls it the Green eyed monster. Don’t focus your thoughts and conversation on another woman. Even if you may not mean to you are giving the impression that you find someone else to be more desirable to you than your wife. Jealousy is in some cases justified and either elicits a fight or flight response. Your wife may separate and become distant to protect themselves emotionally or they may fight to keep you even closer. In some cases it may be because they may be reacting to a woman that is predatory looking to break up your marriage.
Are you placing the importance of things ahead of your relationship? Without even thinking about it we can lose sight of what’s important. By focusing on reaching that next rung on the ladder we may work more hours and focus on social settings more than the things to encourage your marriage and family. Make sure goals and dreams are shared and remember to live. Don’t lose sight on the things that are important together.
Enjoy what you have now.
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