Time and Changes

Does time change things so much that we “fall out of love”? I would have to first ask were you in love in the first place. I have been frustrated and even angry with my wife as I know she has been with me, but it did not change the love we have for each other. When I talk with young couples claiming to have fallen out of love their relationship was infatuation and they didn’t know anything about the real person they were marrying. Don’t mistake lust and love. Proverbs 11:6 “The righteousness of the upright delivers them, but the treacherous are taken captive by their lust”. Emotions are dulled over time and we become desensitized by routine. Studies are quoted about television violence desensitizing our youth. Even though I believe much of the statistics utilized are over-exaggerated, the basic point is true. Without substance in relationship, moral structure, and education we do lose part of compassion or love for another. Relationships take work! There are times we wake up and just need to step back. Figure out what is going on and build each other up. Stress of finances, outside family, and severe life changes can throw a curve in your relationship. By talking it through we can understand each other’s needs and how to meet them. Sometimes it may take a while to provide something needed or as we change can move from need to simply a want. Because of this it is important to always keep communication open. Create priorities together and re-evaluate them regularly. By planning together and discussing changes in priorities we can encourage each other for like goals. Working together towards alike goals encourages our relationship. Not always doing the same thing all the time enlivens our love for each other. By keeping our love and commitment towards each other helps our marriages to last. Plan for the future, but don’t be afraid to change. Change is healthy when it change is developing a stronger commitment to each other. Career’s fall apart regularly, friends come and go, relatives die, but if you have each other you can work through anything.